When I became a single parent there was so much pressure to go to work. My kids had already suffered from the split, I had been a stay home mom so this would be a huge adjustment for them. I looked for things I could do at or near home. When it was evident I could no longer pay the rent I was humbled to accept on offer of someone who had a camper I could use. A friend had a camp connection and I ended up at a wonderful summer camp. I parked the trailer and worked in the kitchen for room and board. The kids had access to me 24/7. What a wonderful unexpected answer to my dreadful situation. I hold to the fact that at that time leaving the kids would be detrimental to them at that time and I held on to my value of being there for them. I know it sounds crazy and I think most of my friends and family thought I had lost it. I believe if we hold out for what we believe in, the answers show up. Was it my dream to live in a camper with three kids? I don't think so... but it became our adventure. Good things show up in unexpected ways. My hope is for single moms to be able to support their kids by having at least one of their jobs out of the home or with flexibility to work around the kids schedule. I know their are creative ways to start businesses. In fact in Washington State there is a loan program called Washington Cash http://washingtoncash.org/ .
As people of integrity and values it is amazing what liars we can be. I know I hate it and when I called myself out, my life began to change. I found myself saying "I'd give anything to have one of those". NOT, I wouldn't give anything, it is a lie. When hoping for something great to happen I would find myself saying "it'll never happen". Is that the truth? My coach challenge is to look at the things you are saying to yourself and ask if it is true. Notice your self talk and check for lies. Some how statements like these just slide by when they are in regards to ourselves, however they are very damaging and limiting. When you recognize the lies in your self talk, reframe them, say them different, speak the truth. “When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
― Winston S. Churchill
I LOVE Graduation ceremonies, they are inspiring, While I was waiting for graduation to start I was chatting with a woman about what she loved and what her dream job would be. She told me she can't give herself that luxury. She told me that she has to work a job that will give her benefits and that even though she hates her job she can't dare to think about what she loves it would be too painful. It is not the first and I am sure not the last time I hear those sentiments. I know the fear, I know the desperation and believe me, I know the struggle. I am so glad I dared to dream, to hope, to believe life is more than what we are living. I dare you to entertain the possibilities. When I realized the worst thing that could happen is disappointment I said "bring it on". Dare to dream and dare to be disappointed, disappointment doesn't kill us, but stuffing our dreams just might.
Where do I start? It's been so long I don't even know what I love.
Make a list of 20 things you love and do it every day for a week.
Think about what you loved as a child? What did you play at? What made you happy?
Start there and let it grow.....
What is your belief system? or b.s.? What is holding you back from taking a step toward your dream? I can't because... It won't work... some times reality gets in the way. Re-framing our limiting self destructive cant's with "What If". What if even though it seems impossible some how some way it can work. That opens the door to other options, other possibilities. Can you think of one limiting belief that is getting in your way? How can you re-frame or re word it. Most of the time we have to convince our mind of the possibilities, speak it and make it happen. What if....