I am the director of a day center for homeless women and children. Shelly our wonderful volunteer who brings fresh flowers every week, brought roses for all the moms. I am not going to lie, it was a HIT!!! Now with that said, here is some history. Some of the mom’s have lost children to CPS, some have at least one with them, some none. But they were so touched to have a rose for being a mom. Some women couldn’t have children and not only that their mom has passed on. They loved getting a rose. One mom can’t ever see her children again, ever!!! and she was so very proud of her rose. One mom, who’s son is in rehab, went into rehab but couldn’t stay, she came to get some rest from the streets, she was so blessed by that rose. Three mom’s who are working so very hard to do everything required to get their kids back, loved the rose, but no big deal.
It wasn’t about what kind of mom they were, it was that someone cared enough to bring a homeless woman a rose.
We all have Mother's day issues. Whether it is an expectation of how to be treated or which mom to have dinner with. It is a day that stirs frustration and memories of good times and bad, losses and pain. I hope that on this mothers day, you can look inside and see the person that God sees. It is not about what you do or how well you have served, it is because you are here and you were created to love and be loved. When we look inside it is so easy to see “not enough” change the language, you are enough, you deserve love, the past is the past and God’s grace and mercy is enough.
I am learning that all we have to do is change the language from hate to love. For ourselves and others. Letting go of judgement, forgiving, not easy, but it is life. Some of us don’t want to live, I mean really live, we want to stay stuck on our lack. Our “not enough” so we stay in pain. Our time here is short, my goal is to let go, love and move on, harboring pain causes physical pain and make us miss the beauty that is all around us.
As a single mom, I look at all the things my kids didn’t get to do because of lack of funds or someone to take them. I see what I would have liked to have done for my kids. Yet I look at my kids and for all the pain, ramen, and thrift clothes, they have grown into amazing people who are giving back to their communities. What do I want to focus on? The latter I think.
How are you talking to yourself?
What are you saying?
Turn it around - what is the opposite of that?
You are enough
you have enough
you do enough (maybe too much)
Working with the homeless has taught me how important it is to be in the moment and let fears of the future go. Worry, stress, fear, rob us from the now.
Change your life one thought at a time