Doing everything RIGHT

I have heard a lot of “do it right” “make the right decision” type of messages lately.  Like this one, if we plan and do our “do dilligence” ((whatever that means)) God will bless us... things will go GREAT... For some people that seems to be working.  Not for me.  I plan, i make the best choices with the information i have and i still find myself in difficult places.  I still struggle.  So what’s up with that?  I think that people want things to be okay.  So if they say “do it a certain way” then they can make you wrong and stay at peace with God.  But if I am doing things the best i can and striving for integrity and living a good life and things still aren’t working out so great ... then what?  Then i have to question my belief in God.  But here is the HARD Truth... Bad things happen to good people.  What makes it tougher for me to get through these times is the attitude of those around me who want to accuse me, rather than come beside me and say some times life is really hard.  When i am struggling and i think it is part of life,  I can wrap my head around it and move forward.  But when i am struggling and then being told it is my fault for all my many bad choices in life then why bother to move forward?  what good is it to strive and be thoughtful about what i am doing in life and where i am going if every time something doesn’t go the way i want it... it is all my fault.  What if it is just not going my way and it is no ones fault?  What if i take it and learn and grow and continue to move forward?  Blaming makes me want to stay stuck and it takes away all hope.  As much as i hate these messages when i receive them i have to ask myself... am i putting that kind of energy on others?  Or am i comfortable enough with God to know that He works in everyones lives in different ways?  Or do i have no grace and blame people for what is wrong in their lives?  I’m just saying...