Blog Posts

What About You?

10/6/2012

Although this video is about smoking it is so true in many other areas of our lives.
How would you answer the question at the end of the video?
It’s amazing how most people know what
is best for their lives, but they either aren’t willing
to something about it, or they just don’t know
what they can do.

Bitter Sweet

9/30/2012

My friend Cherie came to spend the weekend with me for a retreat, renewal, and girl time. We ate, drank lots of coffee, shared, read, walked around town, dreamed and re decorated my apartment. In the midst of our fun friend weekend, my neighbor was saying good bye to her best friend. My neighbor has terminal cancer and her best friend came from the East Coast to say goodbye. As she left to catch her plane, Cherie and I could hear her sobbing as she walked past my door. We both teared up and couldn't speak. We "shot prayers" in her direction. How can we be inside dreaming about our future while a glass pane away a final goodbye was in progress? As our fun weekend progressed, the firemen showed up next door to take my neighbor to "Comfort Care" where she will be for the rest of her life maybe a week. There are no words to describe the grief we were witnessing, right outside my window. Life is so short and we are so blessed with the gift of life. It was as though we were being reminded that dreams are to be lived and that we can never know how much time we have. When we said our temporary goodbye's to each other is was a blessing and we appreciated that we would see each other again. We nodded our knowing that life is to be lived and challenged each other to action. We are so lucky we have another chance, another day.

Isolation a Dangerous Game

9/3/2012

Single parents you know what I'm talking about. Ever been misunderstood? It causes us to isolate and stand back from the crowd. If not physically then emotionally. Isolation is very dangerous. Take a risk reach out and keep a support system in place. At times it is easy to be overwhelmed even feel like a failure or looser. These are lies from the enemy. When we believe them we end up alone. Fight these thoughts and share your feelings with safe people. There are times when we just need to be alone, that is different. What I am talking about here is survival. Stay in community. Find your safe places and risk sharing your struggles. We don't have to do this alone. Reach out to me here or on FB Did Not See That Coming and share your struggles. We walk this path together and we not only survive we will thrive.

I'm Possible

8/30/2012

I've been guilty of giving in to doubt and fears. I start to think negative destructive thoughts. Sometimes I would think to myself. "I'm never going to make it". Sometimes single parenting was so overwhelming. I remember Cousin Donna saying to me one night, "I just can't let myself go there." Giving fear a foot-hold was too dangerous for me. I decided I would not go there either. Sometimes it is as simple as mind over matter. Choosing to believe I am going to be okay. I am going to make it....no matter what. I'm Possible.

Great Moms

8/26/2012

I was in a group where a mom was telling us how hard it was to let go of being so clean all the time. She says she can't relax until everything is done and she knows the kids pay a price for that. She of course let us know that her house was so clean you could eat off the floor. I chided in saying, "yeah, mine too because there is food on it". I am the first to admit I am a recovering messy. My friend Jennifer says her biggest struggle is mom guilt. If she is working she feels guilty for being gone, if she is home she feels guilty for not making money for her family. Same with cleaning, I feel guilty if my house is a mess. I feel guilty when I'm hanging out with the kids because I "should" be home cleaning. If there is any thing we can let go of maybe, just maybe it's the "mom guilt". You do enough. In the end what are the kids going to remember?

You are enough

8/22/2012

Imagine, people inspired by you simply being you. You are enough. Some days the overwhelm wants to take over and send us into despair but remember you make a difference. You are enough. Choose to believe it. You are going to make it and you can do more than survive. You can thrive. Remember what you love.

The Inner Voice

8/1/2012

When you put it that way. I want to be responsible for the positive "inner voice messages" not the negative, debilitating messages. Especially if my voice will be their inner voice after I've gone to the grave. Something to think about.

July 27th, 2012

7/27/2012

What are your superpowers? It is very easy to get caught up in what we are not doing, what we don't have and lack. Take a minute and think about all the amazing things you do. Pretty amazing huh? Focus on those things today and how you have held it all together in spite of the odds. Relish your superpowers.
Coach Laurie

Time Versus Money

7/23/2012

Yeah right! A catch 22 (did I just date myself?) Easier said than done. How does a single parent do both? Work and be available to the kids? I can only tell you that I was determined to be the one to raise my kids. We were sold a lie that we could do it all and have it all. When we sell ourselves out to 24/7 career the kids miss out on us. As a single mom I felt I had no choice, it was either leave the kids and work or not work and be with the kids. I wanted some solution and whether I was just plain crazy or on to something I knew I had to find a way to make both happen. I did, and you can too. Our values and intentions play out even when we don't realize it. Hold on to what you know you want for your kids. Ask God or the Universe to bring it about even when you see no possibilities that is when miracles happen. Your kids need you more than your money. Keep Believing.

Building a home business?

7/15/2012

If you are trying to build a home business so you can be home and available to your family. Sandi Krakowski has a wonderful book called Reading their Minds. It is 27 dollars but you can download it free to your kindle or computer. http://arealchange.com/ She has built many very successful business' over the last 14 years. A lot of her materials are free including a 30 day free program. She is a Christian and isn't afraid to talk about it. She is internet savy and knows how to have an internet presence to build a successful home business. She is a trainer, it is not a "network marketing" program but if that is what you do, she can teach you how to sell.

My desire for moms is to be able to work from home and make enough money to support a family. If you work out of your home this is not a judgement, I had to do both. I just know that it seems that even working full time it is a struggle to support a family. What do you love? What can you turn into a business? It is okay to be successful, it is okay to make money. Now with the internet it makes it a lot easier. What I love about Sandi is she address' our scarcity thoughts. Which is a mindset I lived in for many years. Thinking thoughts like "There isn't enough. How are we going to make it?" And that breeds more of the same. When we begin to change our thoughts our brain we can begin to change our lives.

Just wanted to share a resource.
Coach Laurie