Screaming Memies

Are you a screamer?  In talking with single moms, many have confessed they are screamers.  The level of frustration in just survival becomes so intense that “screaming” is just what happens.  Most tell me they don’t want to scream at their kids.  There is an old adage “act or re-act” screaming is usually reacting.  And no matter how much easier it is to scream then take action, it doesn’t work.  It is not a good or effective way of communicating.  Not to worry, it can be tamed.  The first step is recognizing and owning the screaming.  Once you recognize it you can begin to try other methods.  When you start to scream, you recognize you are screaming, just stop.  (unless the child is running out in front of a car) take a step back.  What do you want to accomplish?  What started the screaming? Take a breath, count to ten.  Once you get some space from it you can brainstorm with friends, look on line for suggestions, hire a coach or talk really quiet. It will take the kids awhile to figure out your new method, they are used to ignoring your screaming.  Screaming is accusatory so most people just ignore it.  If you scream at your kids in front of others, it is awkward for the on looker and humiliating to the child.  There are better ways to get your point across.   

Are you a screamer?

What steps are you willing to take to stop the insanity?

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Coach Laurie